it’s a beautiful mess but i’m learning

Um hi everybody. My words are all a mess in my head whenever I sit and try to write this. A beautiful mess. A mess of faces – thousands of them – all shapes and ages and shades. A mess of conversations. Snapshotted moments. Of emotions. This post should really be called Phases Of My Heart. Like phases of the moon, but way more unpredictable. 

Hello there. This post is going go be full of random photos from the last four and a half months. You’re welcome.

I’d say these past few months have been a rollercoaster. Sure, it’s a cliche, but sometimes the reason things get said so much is because they’re true. Not always, but sometimes. Anyway. I’ve cried, I’ve laughed, I’ve definitely felt sick, I’ve been packed in a small space with a group of people, I’ve clung on for dear life and I’ve come very very close to screaming several times. And yet …I’ve loved it??? 

Driving round the entire coast of the UK living on a tenner a day with your family in a tiny camper van is hard, y’all. Giving everything up to try and make a difference in a crazy world is hard. It’s hard when you’re questioning what the hell you’re even doing, whether people even care, trying to find a way forward, trying to survive and thrive and function in such a tiny space. Yeah. Sometimes it’s crazy. Sometimes it’s oppressive. I knew it would be tough, but I’m motivated. I push through. We all do. But it’s hard. It’s hard when we’re all sitting in heavy silence in yet another supermarket car park and I can feel the tension in my stomach. It’s hard when I’m physically pushing myself to keep going, keep smiling, when mentally and emotionally I’m crying on the floor. It’s hard when all our voices rise above each other, filled with fear and tears and frustration. Its hard when it’s all too much and I feel like throwing up. It’s hard when no one gets it right. 

But when we do – when we do get it right – it’s incredible. That’s what I’ve been wanting to tell you about. About all the incredible people I’m meeting, all the lessons I’ve learnt, what I’ve experienced. What I’ve made happen. It’s tumbling out of me and I’m afraid this is going to be a mess. I’ve decided just to let it be what it is. 

I’ve spent four hours painting faces at a barbecue that was all about welcoming refugees from all over the world into the community, we laughed together even though we didn’t all speak the same language and ate the most ridiculously delicious food I’ve ever had in my entire life, cooked together by people from so many different cultures. I’ve spent time with people who’ve hit absolute rock bottom in their lives and then made the life or death decision to rise up and bring others with them. I’ve witnessed their strength and motivation. I was never a shy person before, but I’ve learnt to genuinely smile when the hundredth person of the day knocks on the van door and asks me about the challenge. I’ve learnt to believe in what I’m doing enough to walk into a cafe or restaurant, tell them about our challenge and ask if they’ll fill up our water tank, even though I used to dread asking people for anything because it felt wrong to me. I don’t know why. I’ve learnt about different people and places and what makes them who they are. 

New friends 🙂

I’ve swam in the freezing cold sea, huge waves crashing over me and felt that power and elation and freedom. I’ve stood up in front of a group of strangers my age and talked about our journey and how we, as young people, are not helpless or hopeless and how we can make a difference. I’ve made so many new friends, given hugs and received them. I’ve jumped off of cliffs into the icy water below, been swimming in the sea at midnight to see bioluminescence which looks like tiny fairy lights underwater and I’ve climbed the highest mountains in England, Wales and Scotland. I’ve learnt how to harness the positive power of social media, make connections and use hashtags. I’ve also gotten used to going for days without wifi.

I’ve met other young people determined to make a difference and been inspired by them. I’ve experienced the true meaning and definition of community and seen how people can come together, care about one another and make their town or city a better place. I’ve drunk endless cups of tea in strangers houses, chatted to countless people on the streets or in car parks. I’ve achieved some of my dreams, qualifying as a bosun and sailing to Holland and back. I’ve marched through city streets for equality and acceptance. I’ve cooked for people. I’ve danced all night. I’ve experienced so much kindness. 

I’ve met people who are so dedicated, so full of energy and ideas and visions that I’ve been so excited by the fact that hopefully one day I can be like them. I’ve (almost) stopped panicking when someone invites us for lunch or wants to give us something because I just feel so uncomfortable taking from people. I’ve learnt to say thank you from the bottom of my heart and allow them to be part of our journey. 

Friendssss

Yes, I’ve burned myself out, giving and giving and giving. I’ve spent entire days on my phone, writing long posts for our social media, planning where we’re going to visit next, corresponding with people in communities all around the coast, phone calls and emails, one after another. I’ve used all my energy up and still been an exhausted mess of emotions at the end of the day, ready to explode or run away or cry. 

I’ve cried a LOT.

Even on days when I’ve decided that I’ve got to take a break and get outdoors and live in the moment, I have to keep checking my phone because I know what some of the people I love and care about the most are going through and it kills that there’s nothing I can do except be there for them when they need me. So I make sure I’m always there. Always ready for the tearful phone calls and mid-breakdown rants. I have to accept that all I can do is love them and try to help in whatever way I can and make sure they don’t go through it alone. That’s all I can do and some days it just doesn’t feel like enough. But I’m insanely grateful for them and for the fun we have and the conversations which I won’t even talk about because we would get judged so bad haha. I’m so grateful that they trust me and that we’re there for each other. Even though I can’t be with them, they mean the world and more. 

My dad might be nearly as crazy as I am

I’ve learned that some people aren’t worth crying over and that staring at your phone screen willing them to text you or sending message after message won’t make them care. I’ve learned both how deep and how shallow people can be. 

That’s what it’s like. Life’s tough and I’ve got it so much easier than most people. But one of the biggest lessons I’m learning is that when you get out there and try to make a difference, you absolutely will. If you have a positive attitude, you will find like-minded people, people will get onboard with what you’re doing and you will not be alone. 

This whole experience has been incredible and I feel like I’m a different person to the girl who started it almost five months ago. I’ve been places and met people I never thought I ever would and been part of things I never thought I ever could be. 

I now know a whole lot more about who I am and who I want to be. 

If you take that step into the unknown I can’t promise you that it won’t be scary and that you won’t struggle. You will. But since when did anyone ever achieve anything without coming up against hardships? 

Honey, it might be a mess, but it’ll be a beautiful one because its born out of your desire for change. 

R

So how’s everyone?? Tell me absolutely everything you’ve been up to and all the beautiful messes you’ve been creating!! I’m so happy to be writing on this blog again. I’ve been posting daily on our social media (Round The UK On A Tenner A Day – look us up), but I’ve missed having my own personal space to write and rant and ramble. Remember that if anyone ever wants to talk, pls hmu, no one goes through anything alone on my watch 😉 love to you all x

 

53 thoughts on “it’s a beautiful mess but i’m learning

  1. Following your progress on Facebook so we haven’t lost touch with you guys at all.
    Feeling incredibly guilty that we didn’t send Irys a birthday message so please give her a big hug from all of us (2 and 4 legged ones).
    Sending big smiles to all of you – keep on trucking…

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  2. This is wonderful! I’m glad you are making new friends and having adventures. And I agree with your comment on cliche, I say things that are cliche, but sometimes they just make sense. I’m in dual credit, mostly college, so I’m super busy. My mess is my new book—well, two of them. And I just finished one. I have a mess in my head if characters and plots and a mess on paper of different notes for each book. Haha. And my birthday is coming up, my Mom asked me what I wanted but I don’t know, besides driving lessons! So I’m excited about that.

    Hope you were serious about telling everything. 😂😂 LOL. Love ya! Have a great week!

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  3. I would be so grateful to have an experience like this. When I come back from a week’s camp I feel changed for the better; I can’t imagine how 5 months would make me feel. Your journey sounds so incredible! Also, I have some questions for you to answer if that’s okay. How did you keep up with school/college? Are you living in a house now? Sorry to be nosy x

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    • It’s definitely an experience haha and yeah I know what you mean, that’s what sailing has done for me (but the again, life at sea is pretty unique in its intensity) No worries at all, questions are always great! Feel totally free to be nosy. I’m home educated and always have been so school books come with me on the road, but tbh just learning from life is a pretty good education in itself when you’re constantly meeting so many people and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.
      And we’re not back for a few months yet, but we live in a tiny home anyway, in a log cabin type thing on the back of a truck haha. It’s pretty cool. Any more questions let me know. How are you?? Missed you xxx

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      • In the few times I have tried sailing it’s come apparent that it’s not for me! Home schooling sounds amazing but going into school also has advantages. I’m quite a socially awkward person and even saying hello to some of my family members can be a challenge 😂 I really need to work on that.
        I’m good thank you, but I can’t wait for September to be over. I missed you too! These posts always make me think or feel motivated 🙃

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      • Haha yeah its definitely not for everyone! And yeah, homeschooling is amazing and it works really well for me with my lifestyle. And I’ve never been a shy person at all, but this challenge has made me so much more confident around loads of people. And aww thank you!!

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      • I think that learning from the people around you in really helpful. I would love to not be shy but it’s something I cannot help 🙃 I’ve checked out your Instagram and it looks very exciting! Enjoy the rest of your trip x

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  4. A perfect parcel of thoughts. You’ve summed your adventures over the last few months superbly. You’ve all done amazingly well and brought so much light and joy to the communities you’ve visited so far. You’re an inspiration to all young people showing just what can be done when you put your mind to it and work hard. You’re part of a wonderful team showcasing the wonderful things that happen when teams of people come together within communities, a beautiful antidote to the all the trouble and strife in the world. So in no way a mess but a superb tribute to all you’ve achieved so far. Lots of love to all, keep up the great work xxx

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  5. Gracie. my heart literally leaped inside of me when I saw you’d posted again 💙💙. you’re doing a such great job (like, more than great tbh) and I want you to know how proud I am of you. and yeah, life’s tough, it’s hard but it’s never impossible to live! you know, at the start of this yr I believed negativity was pretty much reality, I’ve changed my mind…sista, you’ve shown so much positivity – so, so, SO much! you’re right, things may be a mess buuuuut I’m so happy to see you shining so beautifully among it, keeping shining, my friend, ok? you live up to your blog title, you know that right? lots and lots of love xx

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  6. Was so excited to read this (always know that I’m going to come away feeling happy + inspired from your posts!). What you are doing is AMAZING, you’re surely making a change in many people’s lives. Wishing you and your family loads more adventures, memories and strength ❤️xx

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  7. OMG IT’S A GRACIE POST ADJKQJSM yayyy!!
    Hi- it’s so nice to read your words again, they’re so beautiful and poetic! And I love following your journey on Instagram, although I’m taking a break for my mental health 🙂. Have I mentioned how AMAZING your journey is??? And inspiring??? I love it so much and I’m so proud of you!! It sounds like a lot of work, but definitely worth it.
    What’s going on with me? Um, a lot of chaotic time management haha and beautiful friends 🌹. But then again, school started (😭) so mixed feelings!
    So nice to hear from you, Gracie! Let’s stay in touch xx

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    • Oh my goodness it’s an Aditi comment asdffhjklll!! Thank you so much for this and yeah I can understand why you’d want to take a break from instagram, it can be really draining (and I don’t even have a personal account!) Again, thank you, your support means a lot. I’m glad everything’s okay with you and yessss let’s definitely keep in touch xxx

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  8. Aaaah I can’t believe I saw this so late!
    Your journey is so inspiring and amazing and I’m soo happy for you! As always, such beautiful words ❤ I loved your pictures and I can so relate to what you're feeling. I've never really felt like I fit in, and always known that I'm not the same as everyone else. I feel so detached from everything sometimes, and things feel like they're falling apart right in front of my eyes, but quoting you, I guess I'm learning. 🙂
    Keep making beautiful messes, lovely. xx

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  9. Oh my gosh I almost cried at the end of this post. It was SO SO SO beautiful. And genuine. You know how I keep asking questions about what you do and why you do all this? I feel like I’ve more than just been answered.

    I’m honestly impressed and motivated by miles. Oh my God. I feel that people like you in this are one in a million. All of us only complain and dream of a certain life but you live it. And its insanely amazing.

    I have no words and any attempt will only reduce the intensity of how I feel rn. And you sounded as wise as a 1000 years old person here. SO. MUCH. OF RESPECT.

    GOOD luck, Gracie. And just remember, I’ll ALWAYS. ALWAYS. be there. :))
    XXX

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