Story time peeps.
So the other day I did an Instagram takeover for an organisation empowering young people to create change in their local neighbourhoods and play a role in building community. I’d never done a takeover before and I was kinda a tiny bit nervous, but at the same time really excited to collaborate and get my message out there.
In the days beforehand, I put together such a detailed plan, brainstormed, wrote out all the little videos that I was going to make, the main issues and points I wanted to address. Then the day came and the time zones got mixed up, it was pouring with rain, my phone kept dying and the signal was rubbish because of the weather- all my carefully laid plans were ruined. I spent most of the day in stressed-out, frustrated, messy tears not just because of this situation but because of a million and one things going on in my life that reared up and overwhelmed me when I was feeling vulnerable.
However, I dried my tears, splashed my face with cold water and made an upbeat video outlining all the powerful, well orchestrated points I’d planned out, I examined my eyes in the mirror to make sure they weren’t too puffy and recorded a message talking about our project, the motivation behind it and what a positive impact it was having. I smiled and I laughed and I made jokes and then I turned the camera off and cried a bit more until my mum made me a cup of tea and forced me to eat a dark chocolate kit kat (which helped. a lot)
When we look at social media, we see exactly what the person who put that content out there wanted us to see. The content they carefully selected and edited, often cutting out all the ‘not so pleasant bits’. The whole “social media is a highlight reel blah blah blah” thing is so familiar that it almost loses its meaning, but take a minute to really think about that because it’s so so true.
My point is, we need to start creating more spaces in society, and on social media too, where it’s perfectly acceptable to be vulnerable and real and raw and unedited and show your emotions, whether that’s anger, joy, sadness, frustration or excitement, and know that people will support you.
No one ever achieved anything amazing without struggling A LOT so don’t be ashamed to say you had a bad day. We can’t expect turning the world upside down to be easy. Damn, we can’t even expect everyday life to be easy. Life is full of challenges that we will only overcome if we work together and support one another.
Social media can be such a positive resource, but it can also pit us against each other in a constant and toxic game of comparison. We can’t fall into that trap. Instead, let’s use our platforms to build each other up and support each other.
That’s why I wanted to share my story about the takeover here today. If I hadn’t, you’d have assumed it went smoothly and that it was completely stress free and I knew exactly what I was doing. I can imagine that if you’d spent your day crying, watching my takeover would make you feel even more alone. Well, guess what, honey? I cried all day too, wipe your tears, let’s talk about this and make it better together.
Love to you all 💪 Talk to me about your experiences of this in the comments xx